Why the panic is reasonable — and workable
Rabbits are prey animals, and being lifted off the ground reads to many of them as being grabbed by a predator; a rabbit who kicks, twists and scrambles when picked up is not being difficult, she is terrified. Kicking while unsupported can also injure a rabbit's spine, so solving this is a safety issue, not just a handling preference. The good news is that most essential checks — teeth, eyes, ears, coat, feet, weight and rear end — can be done with all four of her feet on a surface, if the process is rebuilt around that.
Rebuild the check at floor level
Sit on the floor in a small, enclosed space such as a bathroom or pen and let the rabbit come to you over scattered greens. Practise the components separately on ordinary days: a hand resting near her shoulder, a brief touch along her back, standing on a towel, sitting inside the base of her carrier or a low box where she can be gently contained without being lifted. Pair every step with a favourite food and stop while she is still relaxed. Teeth can be checked by offering a treat and watching her chew and by gently lifting a lip while she sits; feet and underside can be seen by encouraging her to stand up against the pen side for a treat.
When lifting genuinely cannot be avoided
Occasionally a vet visit or a thorough underside check makes some lifting necessary. Practise the safe hold in advance in tiny doses: scooping with one hand under the chest and the other supporting the hindquarters fully, keeping her close to the ground and close to your body, for seconds at first. Alternatively, walk her into her carrier on the floor and lift the carrier — most panicky rabbits accept being moved in a box far better than in hands. If she must be examined at the clinic, tell the vet she is a floor-only patient so they can work on a low table or the floor with a nurse supporting her.
Rehearse the vet trip without the vet
A rabbit who only ever enters her carrier on the way to the clinic learns to dread the carrier itself. Leave it open in her pen as a hide she can use daily, feed favourite greens inside it, and occasionally close the door for a minute and carry her across the room and back, ending with a treat. Weighing can be rehearsed the same way on the floor: a low box on kitchen scales, hopped into for a treat, gives you a weight record without a single lift. These tiny rehearsals mean the real appointment is mostly familiar steps in a new place.
Making progress stick across handlers
Desensitisation fails when one person practises gently and another grabs her as before, so the steps she has mastered need to be written down and shared: which touches she accepts, which treat works, how long she tolerates a session. Keep sessions to a few minutes, a few times a week, and do the real monthly check on a good day rather than after a stressful one. A rabbit who stops eating after handling stress, or who has a sore, discharge or lump the check uncovers, should see a vet rather than waiting for the next routine look. Noting her handling milestones in KinsLe's Care Teams gives every family member the same picture of what she can cope with, so her confidence is built on, never accidentally undone.